Nothing anyone can say in death is guaranteed to help everyone in every situation; that's life, nothing's perfect, but what approach is better? I mean, if may I be so bold as to ask, what reassurance do you think your position offers anyone in any way and at any time?
Specious nonsense. No one, especially a kid, is going to twist things up like that so, effectively, your scenario is a lie. But even if someone should actually be silly enough to think in such warped terms, your "solution" would certainly be no less crushing.universe, and now they'll have to get on with whatever they have left; the believer will effectively tell a kid that the Supreme Being murdered Mom to further His own ends, and that the murderer will always be at large.
Goodness. Are you actually saying we should "lie" to others by telling your spiritually ignorant version of truth? Ethical train wreck? Do you really think believers would do better to lie to the hurting by tell them some spacey version of your meteor story? Do you honestly think there could be any human comfort found in your poorly thought out stories?Short version - the notion of a "guiding hand" being behind all that happens is not necessarily going to be taken as a comfort by all it is presented to. I'll take - and do take - the random meteor strike conclusion every time. For some, "There is no 'WHY'" is a better place to proceed from, and looking for one only provides more misery. At the very least, presenting that view is often going to take many more supporting arguments - and you'd better be prepared to deliver them - to chill a traumatized child out. Hopefully, that explains to you why the non-spiritual should not attempt to guide anyone spiritually. What any of us perceive as a lie is harder to sell/maintain than what we perceive as the truth, and starting the conversation by lying to an innocent dealing with a lot of pain - or delivering them to someone who would lie for you by telling their version of the truth - is an ethical train wreck waiting to happen.
No offence intended but you sound quite young and inexperienced, I have to wonder how old you are?